Who TOLD you that you met your "Soul Mate?!"

SOO.. you have butterflies, he's so gorgeous, he sends you the sweetest messages, he's EVERYTHING you've ever wanted, He's your soulmate!!

Ok, well, whoever told you that- LIED to you. Your soul is your mind, will and emotions. And whether you believe it or not, these three areas need to be developed. It's how you think, it's how you feel and how your past experiences play into who you are today. So if you really think, some man off the street can come in and make you feel fuzzy and warm forever and take away all of that pain from your soul?! Girl, please. That takes work. And with the WRONG man, he won't be equipped to recognize what you really need.

So, then-- after 6 months and you have a couple arguments, he constantly tries to screw you and succeeds often, you repent and find that you keep compromising with this fool then, you can't stop because lasciviousness (inability to stop) has creeped in-- ya'll break up and everyone asks why? You say, because he' did this and that.. but you in all honestly, Neither YOU or HOMEBOY had standards to shut your flesh down and submit to God's word.. So you didn't see it was WORTH developing with that person, so you let them go on their way. Did you know when you have sex with a person before marriage you are ROBBING that man from growing emotionally (you too!)? No wonder' ya'll fightin' all the time. And it's not just sex for those of you ladies who wanna do everything but sex. It's all the same. Don't turn on that physical button with that man, because you'll desire to do SO much more. Set boundaries. Serve God with your body. And if that man keeps tryin' he don't love you. He lusts you. Love yourself enough to get out.

Luke 14:28 says "For which of you ladies, intend to build a tower (relationship) sitteth not down first and count the COST of it, to see if you got enough in you to finish it?!

And guess what, you didn't count the cost of it, or check out your motive for wantin' that man (impatience, you gettin' old, you lonely, everyone's getting married) and now you got hurt again. So.. that means you have have another foundation laid of hurt to go on top of the last guy and the 5 others before him. Didn't you know that if you keep laying that foundation you will NEVER be free?! You are laying your foundation on "Sand" and not ROCK (Matthew 7:25). So the wind and storms came and knocked your little foundation down. It'll keep knocking it down until you go get you some rock and start rebuilding.

When you do meet the RIGHT one, he'll challenge your tail, it won't be easy because he'll be a mirror to you constantly "plucking" (thanks Cornelius for the use of that word! :)) out different areas of your life that you need to work on. I sure wouldn't say that it's all that pretty but the fruit of it is EVERLASTING and beautiful. Slow down and BUILD your house of standards so some fool can't come and tear your house down and have you all messed up.

Soo, you wanna be married, huh?

So, you want to be married, right? You could be in a dating relationship or single.. and everyone around you is getting married and you have a strong desire for that companionship, love, and someone to spend your valentines day with, right? Well, depends.

Ephesians 5:22 says, "Wives, submit yourself to your own husbands as unto the Lord".

This scripture tells me that before "she" was a "wife" she should of been submitting herself unto the Lord. How you gonna submit to a MAN if you haven't submitted to God? You arent' submitting to God in the LITTLE things! You say you wanna husband but you arent' married to God's word!! You cant even submit to getting up and spending time with God in the morning, You needa go submit to your messy bedroom. You aint submitting to Joshua 1:8 which says to meditate on my word day and night to make your way prosperous and to have good success--which tells me that you need to go get you some content scriptures and learn to be happy by yourself FIRST. So, if you REALLY want to be married, get busy about working on YOU. What are you bringing to the table of that relationship? Are you an emotional wreck, how is that gonna help your man, helpmeet? Are you waiting for that man to come and wisk you away and take on your burdens and give you that security? Before you go waste all your time doing that, I can TELL you by experience, I tried to place my trust in man, money, material things and position and it ALL failed. So, go save yourself a few years of drama and..

Get secure in God. Isaiah 54:5 says that the "Maker is your husband". I encourage you today, to date God. Date him on a regular basis. I cook for God, He takes me to the movies, I spend time with Him every morning, He picks out my outfits, He shows me how to be the best fiance I can be, He gives wisdom and advice on my friends. He shows me who is gossiping about me and explains to me how important it is to forgive and love them no matter what. He's the ONLY source of who I am, and everything He gives me is simply His resource.

God is your friend. He loves you. Slow down & don't you settle for some Ishmael when Issac is in position (Genesis 16). Remember that the counterfeit will always always come before the real thing. Don't quit on God. He has great plans for you. God has not forgot about you and the desires in your heart. Be content and STOP looking for "He who finds SHE". Which means, your supposed to be hidden away fulfilling the will of God for your life.

"YOU are wayyy to picky, thats why you are Single."

 Friend: “Girl, you are wayyy to picky—that’s why you are single.” Ever had a friend like that? You may want to reconsider the closeness of that friendship. #1 a friend speaks into your life and builds you up where you are, not reminds of you your marital status. Do you know that Satan will use a weakness in your friend to cause doubt & unbelief in your life?! He will use whoever he can get that is close to you. So guard your relationships.

Don’t believe the lie that you are supposed to settle for some man or woman that is below your standards. I actually believed that lie as soon as I got saved. I looked around and I felt like I wasn’t attracted to most of the guys in the church. The brotha’s outside the church was more of my “heart’s desires”—their swagger, their fun lifestyles, money & friends. They weren’t all deep to me. But Heather.. In Psalms 37:4, the Bible says, "Delight thyself also in the LORD, and he shall give you the desires of your heart." That is true. God will give you HIS desires because as you delight yourself IN Him, Your desires poisoned by SIN are removed & replaced with God's desires. So please don’t use this scripture as an answered prayer for your sorta-saved boyfriend. Let’s just be honest, you are lonely & tired of being alone. Your clock could be ticking in your mind so you would rather marry than to deal with the emotions of loneliness. Or you want some sex and you don’t want to wait until you are married for it. You can repent right? I can tell you that evidence of your salvation is not you quoting some sinners prayer. Evidence of your salvation is the fruit that GOD changed you. Even Satan & all of his demons can quote some words.  I know you believe God concerning trusting Him & not using your body for fornication by evidence of takin’ your tail home & telling that person NO that wants to sit & play with your body that has NO plans to marry you.  

I believed the lie that I wouldn’t be attracted to my one day mate until  I saw a brotha (I never saw the man again, so he was just used for that day lol) that I was attracted to in church & God told me .. see Heather! You will be attracted to your one-day mate. He will measure up to your standards. What were my standards? I had like 30 written out until God challenged me and told me to make sure I am all those things on that list. (dang. Lol) So I threw my little stupid list away and realized that no man is perfect according to my list. My one day mate would have to develop into alot of those things on my little piece of paper. Instead of focusing on my list, I got focused on my relationship with Christ because I knew that I would DRAW whatever I was.  I developed a super cool, intimate  relationship with Him. We went on dates, we shopped together, we talked about EVERYTHING! I treated getting to know God like a new boyfriend. You know..you text all day, call each other…it’s like a fast forward of getting to know one another. I took all that energy and became obsessed with Jesus. It was beautiful.  And I wouldn’t trade it for anything. It comes in handy as a now-wife :). The same Jesus teaches me how to be submitted to my husband because I really didn’t have an example. Practicing the above made Jesus my life. Not just a part of my Sunday morning.

A REAL man/woman has standards of his/her own that will build off of yours. YES, they are out there. NO you don’t have to settle!! I am currently LIVING on the other side of a NOT settling after I thought I had to for YEARS. You are simply beautiful & wonderfully made by the Author & Creator of TIME. Don’t you know that He will bring a mate to you at the right TIME?! You’ll have kids at the right TIME. So don’t you dare settle for one more second with a person you KNOW aint right for you. Get out of that relationship, get whole & then you will be ROOM for your real spouse. Satan is trying to get you all messed up by focusing on this worlds man-made calendar. So rest & learn God. Let Him change you. The difference between you & God is—God doesn’t think He is you. So don’t try to be Him.

casual messy updo hairstyle tutorial

hey everyone! in case you haven't yet seen my most recent hairstyle tutorial video, here it is...

it's super simple to do, and will always look nice if you don't try to do it 'perfectly' - the essence of this look is in its decontructed, 'messy' look :)

healthy living tips: fresh air

hey everyone! hope you are all ok. i'm doing really well here in Australia - loving every moment :)

i just thought i'd catch up on this blog, and let you all in on one of my latest videos, if you haven't already seen it - #7 in my healthy living tips series, all about fresh air.

read on after watching for more info...

so why is it important to get out in the fresh air, and how much of it should we be getting?
 - fresh air is one of the all time most secretive, yet obvious, beauty tips out there. my mother has always said that a good quantity of fresh air will ensure a great complexion and help you sleep better too.
 - it's important to make sure you go outside every day, and breath in the pure natural air (especially if you live in the countryside). even better if you can do your exercise out of doors - have you ever noticed how horseriders, skiers, gardeners and cyclists have awesome skin?
 - by spending more time outside, you'll be breathing in cleaner air with more oxygen and positively charged ions. this:

• enables you to breath better


• helps to refresh your cells


• makes you happier and more positive (because you'll be in nature!)


• helps regulate body temperature


• increases your vitamin D level


• strengthens your immune system


• smooths out your circadian rhythm (aka sleep pattern) 


• aids recovery from illness,


• and helps you live longer too!

 - other key ways of breathing good air when indoors are: good ventilation, living indoor plants, no toxic room sprays or fresheners, keeping windows slightly ajar.

how to get rid of acne scars

hello lovelies!

i'm back with the next installment (from australia!) of my all about acne series.

there are a couple of different types of acne scarring - hyperpigmentation from mild acne (usually red dots where a blemish has occurred), and proper acne scars from severe acne (ranging from icepick scars to keloidal scarring).

once my acne cleared up in february i was left with hyperpigmentation around my mouth and along my jawline, which is now gone 5 months later! here are my natural and holistic tips to getting rid of acne scarring:

1. patience!
time is absolutely essential - because it takes 1 month for your skin to regenerate, and because the damage is so far down with hyperpigmentation, it'll take much longer for the deepest levels of skin to renew and refresh. so WAIT! there isn't a miracle product or cure better than time.

2. good weekly oil massage
a simple weekly massage with a simple oil like sweet almond or grapeseed can really help boost the circulation to your skin surface, therefore promoting healing. it feels nice too - so give it a go!

3. heat + light
i've mentioned this before - it's important to get out in the sunshine, and to make sure your skin stays at a good functioning temperature. both times i've slept in a cold room i've got acne - and that's probably one of the main causes of it for me. sunshine helps the healing process too!

4. exercise
this will help your skin to heal and balance out because it gets your circulation going - and is probably what helped your acne to heal in the first place! gentle 30 mins of walking is helpful as a start...

5. good acne concealer
i recommend mineral products - disappear by jane iredale is my ultimate favorite, and then lily lolo mineral foundation over the top when the scarring is in it's early stages.

6. anything to encourage good blood flow!
basically, a good diet and lots of fresh air will help oxygen and essential nutrients keep your skin in balance and encourage it to heal quicker.

7. dermatologist visit
for those of you who have suffered from severe acne, and who have waited a good year to see improvement in your scars, i would recommend a visit to a good dermatologist (it'll be worth paying more money in the short term to make sure you get good results first time). they could suggest a simple filler, chemical peel or laser resurfacing to help even the skin tone.

for a greater in depth discussion - check out my yt vid:

avoiding acne scarring

hello lovely readers! i hope everything is ok with you ♥

here's a few tips and pointers on how you can avoid acne scarring...

but first things first - i must mention that i scarred from my acne, whether i picked, squeezed or left a blemish. it didn't seem to matter what i tried, i was left with these small red and purple marks where my acne had been. so, i don't actually think you can avoid acne scars... but you can make sure they aren't any worse or permanent than just a small red dot that disappears in a few months (and mine are now all disappeared 4 months later - yahoo!)

1. eat a great diet full of anti-inflammatory foods

follow an elimination diet, or simply try cutting out suspicious food groups to determine whether one particular food is causing the inflammation to occur. then load up on leafy greens, berries and fresh ginger to help reduce the redness.

2. exercise every day in a moderate and gentle way to keep your body in balance

frequent moderate exercise is awesome for you! and the more you can do outside the better. choose activities that are really fun and sociable, rather than things you feel you ought to do.

3. get out in the sun and fresh air

clear out your system by being in the sunshine and breathing lots of good air. it'll do you wonders - we were made to be outside.

4. avoid exfoliation, touching and picking your spots, massage and strong topical treatments whilst your acne is inflamed

leaving your skin alone to do it's job is the best thing you can do for acne, and to reduce your chances of permanent acne scars. infrequent hygienic squeezing is ok if you know how to do it, but this can also force the pus to lodge itself even further into your tissue and cause damage.

5. use products for sensitive skin in a gentle way and avoid 'acne' products unless they have been prescribed by a doctor

acne products can increase pigmentation due to their strength, as well as causing all sorts of other problems... avoid expensive mistakes and opt for a handful of products designed for sensitive skin instead.

here's a more in depth review:

i hope this information is helpful to you! keep an eye out, or subscribe to alissaevelyn to learn about how you can treat your acne scars ♥

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