People Driving You Up The Wall?

We've all been there. Just frustrated or irratated about someone or a certain situation or feeling like you WISH your husband, man, friend, sister, brother, mama, daddy or whoever ELSE will change and stop BOTHERING YOU!!

I want to challenge you tonight in the midst of your frustration. Maybe.. it's you that needs to change? And trust me, I'm talking to myself as well. In every relationship-- we have a part to play. And while we go to God with our laundry list of ALL of the THINGS that everybody else needs to change, He begins to whisper into our heart, "You prayed for patience, so I'm giving you patience." You prayed to grow up in me, so I'm giving you changes to develop in endurance and maturity." "You prayed for peace, so you are getting opportunities to choose PEACE over stress." "You prayed for a great marriage-- so I'm showing you each other as a mirror so you can give those areas to me that don't.. quite look like Me."

You see, at times, we forget our prayers. We forget that we cry out to God and sing the songs, "I SURRENDER all GOD!!" on Sunday at church but on Monday, we cuss out our unsaved co-worker because she is trying to "throw you under the bus." Remember that the co-worker MAY not read the bible, but she or he IS reading your life and how you respond to them.

1 Peter 2: 18-23 says:

When treated unfairly by a superior, we should submissively endure by entrusting ourselves to God, the righteous Judge.

And if you continue to read it says "and LIKEWISE the same way in your MARRIAGE." I'm not referring to a situation where your life is on the line or if your man is doing things illegal-- I'm talking about the normal-- day to day (UGH!) things that he does to push your buttons. In vs. 19 it says that God is PLEASED when we endure unfair treatment and don't retaliate the SAME way that others treated us! So, how have you been responding? Or, how have you responded to him or her to start the whole spat?

If we really believe the bible like we say that we do.. we will let God be the judge over these small & large issues that can become distractions to the body of Christ. We have to trust that God will repay evil & reward unconditional love. I believe it. Do you? Lets believe it together! Let's STAND out to unbelievers as women that aren't like this world!

I'm not tryin' to say that your issue isn't real. I am not trying to say it won't be hard, but as some POINT we have to get off of the MILK of the word of God and start eating the MEAT of the word of God! It's time to mature. It's time to stop going around that same mountain.. over & OVER again. Let's RESPOND differently than we have in the past. We have the Holy Spirit on the inside of us and HE is helping us. You're not alone.

God loves you like crazy,


Just a few things:

1. I  opened up a Pinky Promise Boutique!!! Think fashionable, fabulous purity rings, cross bracelets, journals, statement necklaces & so much more  for women! Check it out via www.pinkypromiseboutiques.com

2. We have developed an APP! Think: daily post notifications + weekly devotionals, recipes and so much more! It's out NOW for iphones + Androids. Under Heather & Cornelius Lindsey: Today With the Lindsey's

3.  If you live in Atlanta, I want to invite you to our church. Join us on Sundays at 11:00am at Landmark Art Cinemas. Our churches name is: "The Gathering Oasis"  931 Monroe Drive NE Atlanta, GA.

4. My book is selling like crazy! I'm so thankful for all of you that have supported! Check it out here: My New Book! Pink Lips & Empty Hearts:  www.PinkLipsAndEmptyHearts.com AND my new book, "A Perfect Recipe" here!

5. Register for the 2014 Pinky Promise in Atlanta, GA! It sold out last year, so you don't want to miss out! www.pinkypromiseconference.com

6. As always, you can join a Pinky Promise group locally! There's about 20,000 ladies that have joined! Find a group near you by joining & checking out the intro page! Join here: www.PinkyPromiseMovement.com

7. We are hosting a Marriage Retreat in August & a Single Retreat in October & so far, both events are almost sold out! We would LOVE to meet you! Join us via www.thegonow.com under events!

Love you all dearly,
Heather Lindsey

Preaching in New York this past weekend! :)

Who TOLD you that you met your "Soul Mate?!"

SOO.. you have butterflies, he's so gorgeous, he sends you the sweetest messages, he's EVERYTHING you've ever wanted, He's your soulmate!!

Ok, well, whoever told you that- LIED to you. Your soul is your mind, will and emotions. And whether you believe it or not, these three areas need to be developed. It's how you think, it's how you feel and how your past experiences play into who you are today. So if you really think, some man off the street can come in and make you feel fuzzy and warm forever and take away all of that pain from your soul?! Girl, please. That takes work. And with the WRONG man, he won't be equipped to recognize what you really need.

So, then-- after 6 months and you have a couple arguments, he constantly tries to screw you and succeeds often, you repent and find that you keep compromising with this fool then, you can't stop because lasciviousness (inability to stop) has creeped in-- ya'll break up and everyone asks why? You say, because he' did this and that.. but you in all honestly, Neither YOU or HOMEBOY had standards to shut your flesh down and submit to God's word.. So you didn't see it was WORTH developing with that person, so you let them go on their way. Did you know when you have sex with a person before marriage you are ROBBING that man from growing emotionally (you too!)? No wonder' ya'll fightin' all the time. And it's not just sex for those of you ladies who wanna do everything but sex. It's all the same. Don't turn on that physical button with that man, because you'll desire to do SO much more. Set boundaries. Serve God with your body. And if that man keeps tryin' he don't love you. He lusts you. Love yourself enough to get out.

Luke 14:28 says "For which of you ladies, intend to build a tower (relationship) sitteth not down first and count the COST of it, to see if you got enough in you to finish it?!

And guess what, you didn't count the cost of it, or check out your motive for wantin' that man (impatience, you gettin' old, you lonely, everyone's getting married) and now you got hurt again. So.. that means you have have another foundation laid of hurt to go on top of the last guy and the 5 others before him. Didn't you know that if you keep laying that foundation you will NEVER be free?! You are laying your foundation on "Sand" and not ROCK (Matthew 7:25). So the wind and storms came and knocked your little foundation down. It'll keep knocking it down until you go get you some rock and start rebuilding.

When you do meet the RIGHT one, he'll challenge your tail, it won't be easy because he'll be a mirror to you constantly "plucking" (thanks Cornelius for the use of that word! :)) out different areas of your life that you need to work on. I sure wouldn't say that it's all that pretty but the fruit of it is EVERLASTING and beautiful. Slow down and BUILD your house of standards so some fool can't come and tear your house down and have you all messed up.